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How Noble Beliefs Can Box You In

I can do whatever I want, so long as it doesn’t bother anyone else

Do you know this belief? 

Did you get a visceral reaction when you read that just now?

You are not alone.

This is a golden rule I grew up with and...

When Progress Looks Like Going Backwards

How often do we have a look at how it really works for others as they make progress towards a goal?

We look to others and see what they want us to see.

They tell us about where they were and where they are now and promise it’s...

Enneagram Type One Starter Guide

Are you fairly new to the Enneagram?

Let’s go over the foundation of the Enneagram system using The Perfectionist as the example.

The enneagram is such an in-depth system because it’s not about what the world see you doing and not...

Be the Trusted Algorithm You Crave

Have you ever caught yourself thinking:

Dang, I wish there was this algorithm that would just tell me what my best choice is with this!

I certainly have and that desire was strong.

What I wanted most of all was this algorithm where I...

I’ve become a fan of the unplanned

Yes! This One, this perfectionist, is no longer scared of the unexpected.

On this last trip, I was amazed that

1 I can now take a plane without stressing, 

2 spill my tea in front of someone I look up to without...

I want you to think of that one goal or project you have for yourself that you keep putting to the side or the one you’ve not been doing and no one really knows about it. 

What is that for you? Is it putting out a podcast just because you wish it existed for yourself and others...

Make Imperfect Your Next Goal

That’s right, this perfectionist decided she would do these big things and they would be imperfect, intentionally imperfect.

In order to do this I had to get out of my spin outs where all I can see is how to improve something, decide what I would...

Your Best Decisions Start Now

I used to think that if I had the foolproof frameworks to make decisions, I would never again be indecisive. Turns out I was wrong.

I don’t know about you but as an Enneagram One, I can make a structure out of anything, I can put together...

You are already magnificent.

You are already radiant.

You just don’t know it yet because you’ve been living inside a cage of golden rules.

Yes, even the rules you believe in can create a cage in which you have very little room to soar.

Yes, even the most...

Your Safe Way to Receive Feedback

One of the ways that you can tell if you’re an Enneagram type One is by looking at what bubbles up inside of you when you receive feedback. 

We Ones basically have a feedback loop running in the background at all times. I have called it...

Helping One in Times of Unrest

I am a 1w9, the idealist, a blend of reformer and peacemaker. You might be a 1 with a 2 wing, the advocate, a blend of reformer and the helper. We are Ones, we share a desire to improve the world so that it matches the internal goodness that is within each of...

The best advice I was ever give:

Make it as easy as possible for yourself, get comfortable with one part of the process then keep going.

I strongly believe that easy is not a cop-out!

A little context. We were about to have our first child and I wanted very much to use cloth...