Body acceptance is everything

• then you can do the embodiment practices I share
• it allows you to participate in your life fully
• get into the family photos
• go to the events
• have a better sex life

Added Bonus: it helps to stand up to an antiquated, oppressive system, that sincerely effed up and break generational patterns, how bad ass is that?

Your First Steps to Body Acceptance

There are three steps, three steps that you can take today that will set you on the course for body acceptance. 

Number One: 

Jot down at least three things about your body that you like. 

Tip: If that’s not acceptable to you, start with three aspects that you don’t dislike and these three things can be small or big (ie: one particular wave in your wavy hair) or something internal or external.

Number Two: 

Let that be what you pay attention to for a while breathe into that part of your body. Whatever it is that you were thinking about.

Number Three: 

Let your OK-ness or like or appreciation of that part grow until you are bathing in it.

You can listen to the full episode HERE  

Full Transcript

Hello everyone and welcome to the 6th episode of season 1 of SELF guided. Your first steps to body acceptance.

This topic has really been in my heart ever since I sort of talked about it in episode 4. I said this thing sort of in passing and realized how important this topic actually is only afterwards. When I said is “I can imagine that back when I really disliked my body, I’d have had a harder time being present in it because my brain would have likely taken the opportunity to point to all my body discomfort.” And then I talked about starting small, with whatever part of your body felt safe, fingers and toes even. 

I know that regardless of which world you were in before it listening to my podcast, meaning you might be into mindset coaching, the Enneagram, or embodiment we’re all three. We all have a body, and we all have a relationship with said body.

Why is it hard to be in your body

Well, I talk about accessing the body as a form of self guidance, I recognize that it’s not as easy as that for most people. And why is that? The easy answer is that we live in a world that has put the brain on a pedestal, claiming it’s the intelligence that matters which is the message we all get so we start disconnecting from the body. The other reason, is because that same world has really ridiculous beauty standards that are unattainable and complete hogwash completely made up. 

Unfortunately, these messages seep into our subconscious and solidify the story that we shouldn’t pay attention to the body unless it’s for attracting the other person or for making ourselves better, but listening to it, for its intelligence, isn’t out their idea. Oh, and add to that the people who raise us, and whoever it is, we spent a lot of time with are also conditioned with these false ideas, and they likely added to the story, and again solidifying to the body you have needs to be different, isn’t good enough, you should hide it in all sorts of ways with strategic clothing and positions. I’ll even add to this that if you were in the mindset world, you’re also likely to be told that the extra weight is a sign of unprocessed emotions because if you only ate the food that you actually need for your body and nothing more and didn’t over eat also known as emotional eating, then you would be that skinny ideal, blah blah blah blah blah. So basically wherever you look, someone has an opinion about your body and there’s ever hardly someone asking you what you want. Underneath what you’ve been sold and told to want for your body and how it’s supposed to look. What do you want?

If you’re listening, I imagine you want a relationship with your body that’s less confrontational, less avoidant, and less judgmental basically more peaceful, easeful, and more accepting, maybe even one day radical self-love.

My Story

I had made it so dang complicated for myself to live in my body. I thought the only way I could accept my body was if I treated it like a project: follow the RIGHT food recommendations and nothing more, adhere to the RIGHT fitness routine with regiment like focus, sing all the RIGHT body positive mantras at the top of my lungs. 

Would you be surprised if I told you none of that worked! That was everything BUT accepting my body.

Of course it didn’t work because I had shame about the body I was in…then I had shame for not doing the things I “knew” were supposed to fix me. Bah! I finally had ENOUGH. 

I couldn’t go on anymore with the perfectly veiled excuses for not going swimming with the kids, staying out of spontaneous pics (you know the ones you can’t plan for to the last detail to make sure you’ll look as best as you can even though you still think that’s not good enough), or saying no to outings and opportunities because this silly body just didn’t look the way I wanted it to, didn’t  move the way I wanted it to anymore. 

And so I began the work of accepting my body. This body. The one I’m already in. Then just like magic, I started to get glimpses of enjoying being in my body of feeling ALIVE.

Now, I’m swimming with the kids on the beach wearing whatever the F I want, I’m IN the photos and I say YES to every single event and opportunity that looks like fun.

So what I think is available to each of us is body acceptance. You have to go against the current of society sometimes to get there and continue to be friends with your body when most people are telling you it should be a battle ground. I stood up to everyone and embraced my age, my gray hair, my wrinkles, my stretch marks. Honestly, if they don’t like it, it’s really not because of me, it’s because of their own prejudices ideals, and let’s be honest conditioning. I’m perfectly fine with them having or holding onto these, and I don’t have to. I get to still love them and love me. I’m not saying you can only except your body if you go, all natural, you can dye your hair, and we are tons of make up. When are expression comes from within and not from others, that self honoring, that is self guided.

What’s happens when you accept your body

Body acceptance will not only help you to do practices. I describe on this podcast, but it also allows you to participate in your life fully, get into the family photos, go to the events, have a better sex life. Oh, and and it helps to stand up to antiquated, oppressive system, that sincerely effed up and break generational patterns, how bad ass is that?

Your First Steps to Body Acceptance

There are three steps, three steps that you can take today that will set you on the course for body acceptance. If what I’m talking about today speak to you.

Number one jot down at least three things about your body that you like. If that’s not accessible to you, start with three aspects that you don’t dislike and these three things can be small or big one particular wave in your wavy hair, or the general shape of your body it can be some thing internal or external like think internal systems like your body houses the parts of you that help you function. I think you get it any three things will do. 

Number two let that be what you pay attention to for a while breathe into that part of your body. Whatever it is that you were thinking about.

Number three let your OK-ness or like or appreciation of that part grow until you are bathing in it 

Remember that if you were able to do it with my guidance, that you can bring up this belt experience of your body whenever you want to. Let this be your reference from now on. Feel free to add to the list as your capacity for increases. 

Now, if you weren’t able to do this, or it felt terrible, there’s nothing wrong with you, and it’s not your fault. It’s possible that you might just need a few additional steps or additional support. You can get in touch with me at any time to figure that out. That’s not proof That you’ll never be able to accept your body but it’s beyond the scope and support that I can offer through a podcast.

Your body is part of how you experience being a life.

I hope this is landing for you all. For some, it may just be the reminder that you need right now and for others, you may realize that you want to accept your body but it just does not feel possible. If that you keep your attention on my upcoming offers they will be centred on body acceptance. You can have a sneak peek I going to my Instagram and you can also check out my website where there’s already an option to work with me on body acceptance because it is your birthright to feel good and alive in the body you are in.

Until next time,

Love to each and everyone