Make Imperfect Your Next Goal

goals my life my way perfectionist podcast Mar 30, 2022
The Enneagram One Project

Make Imperfect Your Next Goal

 

That’s right, this perfectionist decided she would do these big things and they would be imperfect, intentionally imperfect.

 

In order to do this I had to get out of my spin outs where all I can see is how to improve something, decide what I would do more  and I also what I’d let go of.

 

In this episode, you will learn how an Embodiment practice helped lay the foundation for allowing myself to be imperfect. There are no right or wrong movements or sounds, just whatever you do and don’t do.

 

Becoming practiced at going within instead of searching outside of myself allowed me to feel a freedom unlike any I had ever felt. Freedom to explore who I am, freedom to be me, freedom to not see any movement or sound as a mistake.

 

Once you know that in your body, you can’t un-know it. It becomes engraved as what is possible for you, even outside of the practice.

 

This new experience is what made it possible for me to consider making a goal in which imperfection was front and center.

 

The benefits of this goal, this approach and deciding what I’d do more of and do less of allowed me to focus on the message, focus on every small shift I made in the last year and how I can bring that to you.

 

My invitation to you is to make a goal for yourself that fosters being imperfect, puts it at the forefront to help you get out of the perfectionist box.

 

Listen to the full episode HERE

 

Resources:

 

Primal Feminine Flow: https://jennaward.co/flow/

The Enneagram One Project Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theenneagramoneproject 

 


Transcript:

 

 

Welcome every One, you are listening to The Enneagram One Project Podcast, Ep 13 - Make Imperfect Your Next Goal

 

Over the last year, I’ve set 2 goals for myself that I will say have had the biggest impact on my perfectionist tendencies. I’ll explain them both in detail as we go but briefly, the first had to do with my embodiment practice and the second this podcast. 

 

What both of these goals have in common is that I decided I would achieve them imperfectly, on purpose. That’s right, this perfectionist decided she would do these big things and they would be imperfect, intentionally imperfect.

 

In order to do this I had to get out of my spin outs where all I can see is how to improve something, decide what I would do more  and I also what I’d let go of.

 

Embodiment First

 

Let’s take the embodiment practice first because I think it lay a foundation I needed to then be able to set the goal for this podcast. The embodiment practice I’m referring to is the Primal Feminine Flow that I learned from Jenna Ward. 

 

Jenna makes it very clear that there’s no right or wrong way to do the practice. Jenna provides the general idea with easy to follow instructions and gently suggests that you do the practice for a certain amount of time, for a certain amount of days in a row.

 

So here I am, the person who likes a clear rule book, and I’m like, wait what? There’s no right or wrong, and even though the teacher is telling me what they think is best practices, I can actually do whatever I am called to do. 

 

Whatever I am called to do. But I’ve never paid attention to what I am called to do before, I don’t really know what that means at this point. But I try anyway.

 

I calmed my brain that thought it needed more direction, more framework and more strict parameters. I made a plan but the loses plan I have ever made. I will do the first few days as is recommended because I have no idea how any of it works and then I will decide again. If you listened to last week’s episode, you might remember me saying that I add “for now” onto my decisions, this is an example of that.

 

Once I had the foundation of the practice down, I made that goal. My goal was to use this practice to be more of myself without judging what I would physically do or what I would discover. I would add the practice to my calendar and only do it if I was called to do it (once I knew how to discern what that even means) and I would play with the length of time for each practice.

 

I got out of my head whenever it said I had to do it daily, or that I wasn’t doing it right. I got out of my head and into my body. I used this rumination on the best way to do this practice as a cue from my body to me that now would be a good time to be more embodied. I chose to make the practice about my own desires and less about how I was supposed to do it.

 

From this more embodied place, I was able to tap into a part of myself that knows there’s no such thing as perfect. Is the practice honoring my body, is the practice honoring what my body is asking of me in this moment? Yes, then we’re gold. Nothing else is required.

 

The freedom I felt and still feel during an embodiment practice, freedom to explore who I am, freedom to be me, freedom to not see any movement or sound as a mistake. Once you know that in your body, you can’t un-know it. It becomes engraved as what is possible for you, even outside of the practice.

 

Podcast Goal

 

That’s the new knowing I brought with me to create The Enneagram One Project podcast. 

 

There are apparently best practices when it comes to podcasts and podcasting. I did a little research, who am I kidding, I did a lot of research. Once I had it all, I decided what was going to work for me.

 

The first thing I decided was that this podcast was going to be an example for perfectionists that you can put out imperfect work, and that it can have a positive impact in the world.

 

Making this the priority over following the rules was the best balance for MY brain. On the one hand, I’m giving it 1 standard to live up to and on the other hand, the standard itself is a reminder of the permission to let go of what’s not necessary. Can you feel that? That is how you use your One brain and make it your superpower. It likes rules, give it a rule, but make that rule be from your deeper knowing and not from what others tell you.

 

That doesn’t mean that it was always the easiest thing to do. For one I had a belief that I wasn’t creative or smart enough to provide valuable content weekly and so I did my work here. I reminded myself that part of the goal was to be imperfect. I looked for evidence in my life of times I considered myself to be creative and smart and brought along that internal felt sense into the creation of an episode.

 

The second belief that kept coming up was around professionalism. I have a love/hate relationship with this word. Before I say anything more, pause here, what comes up for you with the word professionalism? What are the expectations? Are they your expectations? Have you ever given yourself permission to decide what professional means to you?

 

I’ll give you an example, does wearing makeup, being dressed up and wearing heels mean you’re professional? I thought it did for a long time. The truth, or at least what I noticed to be true, is that you can wear the makeup, be dressed up and wear the heels and be incompetent. The exterior stuff means absolutely nothing. Give me someone who does their work and lives by their teachings over someone that’s got all the exterior stuff figured out. That doesn’t mean that someone won’t have the makeup and all the things, you do you.

 

How does this relate to the podcast? After I did the research, what came out the most had to do with external things, what the audience would notice such as removing the umms and filler words. Have you noticed that I don’t really take those out? I don’t say them too often, but I want you to know me, not the polished version because that version, it’s unrealistic to live up to. If we meet in real life, I want you to know it’s me. If that’s not living up to certain standards in the podcasting world, that’s ok by me.

 

This takes away a ton of pressure too. Remember my goal is to release realness into the world so that it gives you permission to be you as well. That’s the point. So I will always be professional but it might not have anything to do with umms, but rather because I speak from my experience, the knowledge I’ve acquire from years of mindset coaching, my lived embodiment experience and I aim to be a model of showing up as myself to you even I’m a little unsure.

 

Benefit

 

The benefits of this goal, this approach and deciding what I’d do more of and do less of allowed me to focus on the message, focus on every small shift I made in the last year and how I can bring that to you.

 

This podcast is everything I wish had existed about a year ago. 

 

I’m an enneagram One, the mindset approach works but I have a relentless inner critic, an urgency to improve and I don’t acknowledge anger until I notice the resentment in my body. No one is speaking to this. No one is speaking to solutions that I have already available to me that can support me to release the conditioning that creates the internal discord. That’s why I use an integrative approach of mindset and embodiment and I talk to you all about it too so that you can be empowered, so that you can use your brain’s natural tendency as your superpower. 

 

This would not be available to you if I hadn’t first decided it was going to be an example of imperfect action that creates a positive impact.

 

My invitation to you is to make a goal for yourself that fosters being imperfect, puts it at the forefront to help you get out of the perfectionist box. I mean, look what happened when I did it? I had my fingers crossed that maybe, just maybe the podcast would be downloaded 200 times by the end of March, it has been downloaded over 2000 times. I am blow away and I can’t wait to see what you all do with your Oneness!

 

If you don’t know where to start, I recommend an embodiment practice, one that includes movement and even sound. You can join The Enneagram One Project Facebook group now and access my mini trainings. There you will find practices for whatever level of embodiment you are at now, whether you’re practiced or not and you do it at your own pace.

 

Until next time, love to each and every One!

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